βThou shalt not hate thy brother in thine heart: thou shalt in any wise rebuke thy neighbour, and not suffer sin upon himβ (LeviticusΒ 19:17).
Years ago, a television commercial reminded people that βfriends donβt let friends drive drunk.β In that same spirit, our text reminds us that caring Christians donβt let their friends grieve the Spirit by continuing in sin (Eph.Β 4:30). If you truly love a brother in Christ who persists in a path of transgression, you need to rebuke him, βand not suffer sin upon him.β
The problem is, when we think ofΒ rebukingΒ someone, we generally think of a drill sergeant chewing a soldier up one side and down the other! And itβs true that God once said, βI will execute great vengeance upon themΒ with furious rebukesβΒ (Ezekiel 25:17). But a quick check of the context of that verse will show that God was speaking of furiously rebukingΒ His enemies. IfΒ allΒ rebukes were supposed to be βfuriousβ rebukes, God wouldnβt have had to specify that He planned to rebuke the Philistines βwithΒ furiousΒ rebukes.β
Yet how often well-meaning Christians seek to obey LeviticusΒ 19:17Β by unloading on a brother like a nuclear bomb when he sins! This despite the fact that the dictionary defines βrebukeβ asΒ toΒ chideΒ orΒ scoldΒ someone. And this despite the fact that every time weβre toldΒ what men sayΒ when they rebuke someone in the Bible, they always use words like the ones Josephβs father used to rebuke him:
ββ¦his fatherΒ rebukedΒ him,Β and said unto him,Β What is this dream that thou hast dreamed? Shall I and thy mother and thy brethren indeed come to bow down ourselves to theeβ¦?β (Genesis 37:10).
Rather than going ballistic on his son, JacobΒ reasonedΒ with him,Β asking about his dream, and explaining in a respectful manner why he thought Joseph was wrong to be saying such things.
Sort of like the Lord later βrebukedβ the apostles when they wanted to call fire down from Heaven on Samaria, saying, βYe know not what manner of spirit ye are of. For the Son of man is not come to destroy menβs lives, but to save themβ (LukeΒ 9:55,56).
In closing, itβs still true that if you βrebuke a wise manβ that βhe will love theeβ (Pr. 9:8), and βhe that rebuketh a man afterwards shall find more favour than he that flattereth with the tongueβ (Pr. 28:23). But these things are only true if you manage to rebuke your brother βwith all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in loveβ (Eph. 4:2).
So remember, when it comes to rebukes,Β no nukes! source