Did you ever wonder how God could call David βa man after His own heartβΒ (I Sam.Β 13:14)? True, He called him that before his horrific infractions ofΒ adultery and murder. But even after his death, God said of him that he did βkeepΒ My statutes and My commandmentsβ (I KingsΒ 3:14). How can this be?
Well, to begin with, compare how Balaam was able to say of God that βHeΒ hath not beheld iniquity in Jacob, neither hath He seen perverseness in IsraelβΒ (Num.Β 23:21). This, of course, was because the Jews could say that βas far asΒ the east is from the west, so far hath He removed our transgressions from usβΒ (Psa. 103:12), and Isaiah could pray with confidence, βThou hast cast all myΒ sins behind Thy backβ (Isa. 38:17). Similarly, God was able to turn a blind eyeΒ to Davidβs sins, knowing that Christ would one day pay for them.
But there has to be more to it for God to be able to call David a man afterΒ His own heart, and I believe there is. You see, when God said of David that hisΒ heart was βperfect with the Lord his God,β He said that in contrast to Solomon,Β whose wives βturned away his heart after other godsβ (I Kings 11:4). DespiteΒ his great sins, David never fell into idolatry. He always had a heart for theΒ Lord, and a burning desire to serve Him.
As a pastor, Christians often ask me how I can think so highly of them when,Β in many cases, I have counseled them through their times of sin and failure,Β and so I know their deepest shame. I always explain that it is their heart forΒ the Lord that God looks at, and so I always try to do the same. I donβt meanΒ to say that those who strive to serve the Lord can do no wrong in my eyes, butΒ this is very close to being so.
So it is that while we should always strive to live our lives as perfectly asΒ God sees us in Christ (Phil. 3:10-14), if you are beating yourself up about yourΒ past sins and failures, stop it. Remember that βman looketh on the outward appearance,Β but the Lord looketh on the heartβ (I Sam. 16:7), and if God doesnβtΒ behold your iniquity, neither should you.
Finally, if you are a judgmental Christian, why not learn to look upon othersΒ the way God looks at you, and βreceive ye one another, as Christ also receivedΒ us to the glory of Godβ (Rom. 15:7). source