When asking for forgiveness, the world has an expression they frequently use. They say, βCan you find it in your heart to forgive me?β But to paraphrase an old saying, they are asking others to look for forgiveness in all the wrong places! βThe heart is deceitful above all things,Β and desperately wickedβ (Jer. 17:9). Any forgiveness that someone finds there is likely to come with conditions and many strings attached.
If you are finding it difficult to forgive someone, rather than trying to find it in your heart,Β find it in Godβs grace.
βAnd be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another,Β even as God for Christβs sake hath forgiven youβ (Eph. 4:32)
Perhaps you are thinking, βPastor, you donβt know how this brother offended me.β Itβs true, I donβt. But was it more than how your sins offended God? Yet He forgaveΒ allΒ of your sins by His grace, and now asks you to forgive your brother by grace. God was βsatisfiedβ with the payment Christ made on the cross for your brotherβs offense (Isa. 53:11), and has forgiven him for what he did to you. If you fail to forgive him by Godβs grace, that means your standards are higher than His.
So donβt be like the world, looking for forgiveness in all the wrong places. If your brotherβs sin βaboundedβ against you, let Godβs grace βmuch more aboundβ (Rom. 5:20), even as it did when God forgave you. βReceive not the grace of God in vainβ (2 Cor. 6:1). Let it abound in your life to others. Be a grace believer in the highest sense of the name. source